My dearest friend email me this article to enlighten my mood that day.. maybe it can help you too so I'm sharing it..
Uhhmm I want to give credit to the author of this article but sad to say I don't know the author.
1.
Stop spending time with the wrong people.
– Life
is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of
you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.
You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself
to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s
not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best,
but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that
are your true friends.
2.
Stop running from your problems.
– Face
them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world
capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t
supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how
we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble
and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face
problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This
is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3.
Stop lying to yourself.
– You
can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.
Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most
difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The
Road Less Traveled.
4.
Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
– The
most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving
someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help
others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow
your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is
now.
5.
Stop trying to be someone you’re not.
– One
of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world
that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always
be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be
younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will
like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6.
Stop trying to hold onto the past.
– You
can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading
your last one.
7.
Stop being scared to make a mistake.
– Doing
something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive
than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it,
and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting
the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8.
Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.
– We
may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no
matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us
find the person and things that are right for us. We all make
mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you
are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here
NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single
thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a
moment that is yet to come.
9.
Stop trying to buy happiness.
– Many
of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things
that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and
working on our passions.
10.
Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
– If
you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be
happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have
to create stability in your own life first before you can share it
with someone else. Read ‘Stumbling on Happiness’
11.
Stop being idle.
– Don’t
think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there
in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You
cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves
risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on
first.
12.
Stop thinking you’re not ready.
– Nobody
ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great
opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones,
which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
13.
Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
– Relationships
must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad
company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it
will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the
best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re
lonely.
14.
Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
– In
life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.
Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But
most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
15.
Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
– Don’t
worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on
beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU
and YOURSELF only.
16.
Stop being jealous of others.
– Jealousy
is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your
own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone
wants?”
17.
Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.
– Life’s
curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a
direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand
everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect
back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll
often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person,
state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today
you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18.
Stop holding grudges.
– Don’t
live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting
yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying,
“What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to
let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is
the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember,
forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you
must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19.
Stop letting others bring you down to their level.
– Refuse
to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise
theirs.
20.
Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.
– Your
friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.
Just do what you know in your heart is right.
21.
Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
– The
time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If
you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re
getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things
clearly.
22.
Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.
– Enjoy
the little things, because one day you may look back and discover
they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the
small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to
you.
23.
Stop trying to make things perfect.
– The
real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get
things done. Read Getting Things Done.
24.
Stop following the path of least resistance.
– Life
is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something
extraordinary.
25.
Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.
– It’s
okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to
pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that
everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what
other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s
healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be
able to smile again.
26.
Stop blaming others for your troubles.
– The
extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to
which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others
for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give
others power over that part of your life.
27.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
– Doing
so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one
person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but
their world. So narrow your focus.
28.
Stop worrying so much.
– Worry
will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its
joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask
yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?
Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying
about.
29.
Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
– Focus
on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront
of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the
thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and
you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
30.
Stop being ungrateful.
– No
matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for
your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about
what you have that everyone else is missing.